Monday, March 2, 2009

Etiquette Question of the Week

Q: My Grandma told me that I should list the time on my invitation as the actual ceremony time. My dad says that everyone on his side of the family will be late and that I should list the time as the time the music begins. I've asked all my friends and half agree with my dad and half with my Grandma. Which is it?

A: Your Grandmother is correct. The time listed on your invitation should be the time the Ceremony begins. Your guests should know to arrive 15-30 minutes early. If you were to list the time the music begins (usually 30 minutes prior) the guests who behave appropriately and arrive 30 minuets early will not only wonder what happened to cause the wedding to start late...they will be a little mad that they had to wait an hour for the Ceremony to begin. If your dad is concerned with particular family members being late, perhaps he should contact them personally to offer directions to the Ceremony. At that time, he could stress how important their presence is to you and that late guests will not be permitted to enter the after the ceremony begins.

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2horseygirls said...

Kudos for your great (and very diplomatic) answer!

Every family is different, but heavens - I would expect them to buck up and be on time for a once-in-a-lifetime event such as this.

Simi said...

well I cheated then! much to dismay of the guests that were on time but lucky for the ones who were a little late!

Paper Persuasions - an invitation studio said...

Ha! I cheated on mine too. If it makes you feel any better, my ENTIRE invitation ensemble is worded EXACTLY how it shouldn't be worded. Oh the things you learn when you decide to make a career out of a hobby :)